Woodshop, for Dad
my father used to be a carpenter
a master craftsman
a cabinet maker extraordinaire
he’d turn these perfect round cherry wood salad bowls on his lathe
dove tail smooth fitting mahogany joints on his meticulous router
pull his whining De Walt table saw over huge planes of wood that would magically become
with his love and care and endlessly detailed patience
kitchen tables with white inlaid formica tops
custom built wall units complete with knotty pine bookshelves for the World Book Encyclopedia
and antique scrolled top desks with french wire netted doors that were sanded smooth as a baby’s cheek and stained the tawny color of sandalwood
his wood working shop was downstairs in the basement
the only place my mother would allow it
sort of off limits to the rest of us mere mortals
existing in a chaos all its own
full of the smell of sawdust
and the sounds of powerful metal machines groaning together like dinosaurs in his archaic man made sanctuary
amongst piles of wood scraps, nails, blueprints, and half-completed projects
each of the dinosaurs had a personality all its own
there was the drill press
the stately straight backed worker who stood head and heels above the others
who with as little effort as possible bore through the lumber in the precise places where my father wished
whose only danger was in removing the spinning bit after the incision
for if you weren’t careful in holding the wood down, it would fly around in a circular rage and knock your knuckles off
there was the simple jig saw
who even a small fry like me could enlist
to cut the simple shapes of stars, and squares, and keys
that i stained and finished and then tried to peddle door to door in the neighborhood
whose jagged blade rode furiously up and down up and down
like teeth
only to belie the feeling that it was cutting through the wood like butter
then there was the bigger band saw
a glorified version of the jig that wasn’t quite as housebroken and could really get nasty sometimes
like the time my mother was attempting to lose her mechanical blind spot
but instead sawed off the end of her index finger
and came running upstairs with it in her fist
and vowed never to come down to the shop ever again
a vow that was easier said than kept
there were lots of other mechanical monsters
whose names i can’t remember
but whose images i see just as clearly in my mind today as i did 55 years ago
when they were all sacred to me
each in their own spot along the narrow green pastel walls
but whose mastery always eluded me
no matter how much i’d practice
or wish i had my father’s dexterity or inventiveness
you see i always identified with my mother
in this division of the sexes
she was the articulate one
the one who used words
as tools
as creators
instead of machines
the one who encouraged my liberal education
my interest in books, and Broadway shows, and how things
went together
what did i learn from my father?
if not his scientific bent and his ability to fix anything anywhere anytime
i think i learned his curiosity and imagination and
his ability to see
his sixth sense that could look at an object
smell it
or hear it
and tell you
exactly what was wrong with it
he was like a magnet in this regard
he was drawn to thing’s imperfection
its critical flaw
like a leech to blood
like a finger to a sore
it was his genius and his achilles heel
for the more he cared about something
the more he loved it
the better he saw
the more precisely he heard
the more exactly he noticed
what was wrong with it
the scuff on the shoe
the furrow in the brow
the crackle in the recording
the pimple on the nose
the thinness of the legs
the well from which this gift sprung was never revealed
perhaps it fed upon its own dark and troubled source
but it always reflected outward
never inward
and what it saw
it saw flawed
and then tried to fix
sometimes my father would really surprise me
when out of the blue and for no apparent reason
he’d ask helter skelter
“what’s wrong?”
and i’d suddenly be frozen by his scalpel
caught by his glance
and just have to stop
i’d say to myself
“i don’t know
is there something wrong?”
but when nothing presented itself
i’d just say “nothing”
“nothing’s wrong, dad”
but then he’d tell me
“what about this?
how about that?
you don’t look right
you look unhappy
there must be something wrong”
and pretty soon
i learned
i anticipated
i figured out
what was wrong
with me
i got to be one of the bowls
one of the records
one of the masterpieces he owned
or was creating
or needed to have
i got to see
in no uncertain terms
what was imperfect about me
what i couldn’t win
how i couldn’t compete
how nothing ever was
how i never was
good enough
so that now
i’ve incorporated his voice
made it my own
“the critic”
for whom nothing’s ever good enough
who cripples me before i walk
who folds at the point of conflict
who can’t stop picking his own finger nails
even at age 66
oh dad, poor dad
you’ve locked me in the closet and made me so sad
i know you didn’t mean it
but how do i get out?
how do i let you go?
maybe i’ll take a course in woodworking 101
to learn the skills i left behind
how to wield a mighty, but more beneficent, hammer
how to carve with a precise, but more lovong, chisel
how to build the walls i never was able to construct
between you and me
between me and myself
between me and…
the rest of the world
maybe woodworking 101
would teach me how to work with flaws
how to sand over rough edges
accept imperfections
how to live more comfortably with life’s lack of guarantees
my home, my job, my marriage, my retirement
my ageing, my health
i still love the smell of sawdust
and the line of a graceful bowl
i look down at my hands and see the fingers of a carpenter
his hands
the swollen cuticles
scarred and bloody not from the work itself
but from the endless picking
digging
picking
at
and on
himself
i forgive you, dad
i’m an orphan now
you loved me as you could
they’re my fingers now
i’ve built my own life
taken my own wife
taken my own risks
fought my own battles
won some, lost more
but if i ever do get the opportunity to raise a boy
maybe i’ll just try it a little differently
i’ll let him find his own tools
develop his own skills
fight his own battles
find his own voice
write his own words
i’ll love him
like you did me
and plant the seeds
for him to grow
my tools will be the watering can
and my own hands
instead of chisel and the saw
i’ll be a gardener
and make the soil rich
and the water pure
and the light good
and i’ll watch him grow
into his own
sturdy
self reliant
healthy
little tree
for some woodsman to cut down and give to a carpenter
and the cycle will start again
for Dad, 1989; updated 6/13/2014, your would be 97th birthday
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